Parental Support
Parental support
What is Parental support?
Parental support is a broad concept encompassing the resources and assistance parents provide to their children. This includes financial, and practical aid like food, shelter, and It also involves providing a nurturing environment that promotes a child’s overall well-being, fostering confidence, resilience, and healthy emotional development to navigate life’s challenges.
This is without a doubt the NUMBER one most important thing you can do for your child. It starts the second your child is born, and lasts for as long as they live.
You might think that you are actually providing Parental support. BUT, are you?
As far as this website is concerned, it means to let them know just how important they are to you. You might want to keep this in mind.
“There will come a time when you will need them more than they need you. If you have not provided them with parental support, guess what they will do to you when that time comes. They will treat you exactly the same way you treated them, and I can promise you. You will not like it because you will have taught them exactly what to do.”
True, you did not teach them to do this intentionally. But, does that actually change anything at that point?
Getting back to my original idea. As they grow up and get ready for school, they will be trying to learn how to read, or ride a bike, or play baseball or even learn how to sew. You need to be close at hand to let them know that you are there to support them, and to help them whenever they need it.
I am not telling you to be their Best friend. I think that is a bad idea. Just be a parent, not their “Best Bud.”
When I was six, I started learning how to roller skate. All my parents ever did was drop me off at the rink and then go their own way. Neither one of them ever stayed around long enough to see how I was doing or to encourage me. As far as I knew, they could not have cared less. As I got older, I got involved in speed skating. Until I was 18, I cannot remember my father EVER sticking around long enough to see how well I was doing even one time, and my mother only did it one time. They treated me like this throughout the years that I was growing up.
My point is, regardless of what your child becomes interested in. The worst thing you can do is to just drop them off and show back up when they are ready to come home. Without realizing it, you are teaching them that what they find interesting and important is of absolutely no interest to you. You are teaching them that you could not care less about anything they find interesting. How would you have felt if your parents had done this to you? That WILL come back to bite you in the rear. I guarantee you it will.
Remember what I said earlier about when you need them. When both of my parents were in the last days of their lives. I had absolutely no interest whatsoever in even helping them. When they died, I just told the funeral home where to take their body. I had lost all interest in them too many years ago to even talk about. I did not even attend their funerals.
As a matter of fact, my father refused to even attend the wedding when I got married at the age of 24.
So, just remember that however you treat them now just might come back to bite you in the ass many years down the road.
Parental support is an excellent way to help your child to develop not only self-esteem but true self-confidence too. These two items are not one in the same. The following is a better description of what each one does for your child.
Self-confidence helps a child by fostering a willingness to try new things, face challenges with resilience, and develop strong social skills and independence. Confident children are more likely to approach life with a positive mindset, feel capable of learning and growth, and can better navigate setbacks, leading to greater happiness and overall success.
A strong self-confident child is far more difficult to bully because they exude a high level of confidence which is something most bullies try to avoid because of how difficult it will be to enforce his will over them. Speaking as a former bully, I wanted nothing to do with this type of child.
A self-confident child does better in school. They are far more popular, and they tend to have strong social skills, and they are far more independent.
Self-esteem helps a child by giving them the confidence to try new things, handle mistakes, and build strong relationships, leading to increased happiness and overall development. Children with high self-esteem are more resilient, better at problem-solving, and more likely to make healthy choices because they believe in their own worth and capabilities.
A strong sense of self-esteem fosters a more positive outlook, improves mental and physical health by reducing anxiety and depression, and leads to healthier, more satisfying relationships. Individuals with high self-esteem are more resilient to challenges, set appropriate boundaries, and are more motivated to pursue goals and perform better in their personal and professional lives.
Making your child as bully-proof as possible.
If you combine these two attributes together along with “Parental Support”, you are setting your child up for success in school, and for the rest of his life. NO, I can not guarantee success. No one can do that. But you can get as close to a guaranty as possible by employing the method that I am promoting.
Parental support will also help you and them to become far closer. It will help them to gain enough confidence in you that they will be far more likely to come to you with their problems as they grow up, and isn’t this what most parents want anyway?